Love Like There Is No Tomorrow...
September 11, 2020
Nineteen years ago today, 9/11 became a date we will never forget. I remember the fear and shock I, like so many, experienced. I think it was the first time that it became clear to me that you just never know when it will be your last day on earth. On that day, I promised myself that I would never, ever say good-bye to my sons at the end of a phone call without saying “I love you” and really mean it with all my heart.
Now we are experiencing the equivalent of a 9/11 approximately every 3 days by an enemy that makes it difficult for some of us to get physically close to the ones we love and to give them a huge, comforting, loving hug. We must remember that this constraint will eventually pass. It is not forever. As I said in my first letter, I will NEVER take a hug for granted again. When I do get to hug, I will hug like there is no tomorrow just like I vowed 19 years ago today that I would tell my loved ones that I love them like there is no tomorrow.
In his book The Untethered Soul, Michael Singer has a chapter entitled “Contemplating Death.” He says, “Death is the greatest teacher in all of life.” He asks, “How much love could you give the ones you love, knowing it would be the last time you’d get to be with them? Think about what it would be like if you lived like that every moment with everyone?”
Well, after 9/11, in 2007, I was very near death. I was on a ventilator and while on that ventilator, I started to crash. While they did not have to resuscitate me with paddles, they did a lot of things to keep me going until I could receive the surgery I so desperately needed to save my life. I remember coming out of that trauma a changed person. I remember feeling so extremely appreciative of every moment of the day. I did not make a bucket list of all the things I wanted to do now that I had survived a near death experience. I did not have to, because every experience of everyday was special. Being able to live appreciatively in the moment is the only thing on my bucket list.
“You have to understand that it is your attempt to get special experiences from life that makes you miss the actual experience of life. Life is not something you get; it’s something you experience.”
With peace and love,