• Cass Rulon-Miller

The Light Of Truth

June 25, 2020

There have been many quotes circulating about the light shining through the crack when we are broken. I wasn’t sure which quote to use today as I was writing this, so I Googled the idea. One site had a thousand quotes from which to choose. So obviously this is not a new idea. The question is what exactly is the light? In most of the quotes it talked about the healing light of God. I am sure we can all relate to that. But today, I would like to take a different angle. I would like to talk about the light as the truth shining through which helps us become more considerate of others. The dictionary defines being considerate as being careful not to cause inconvenience or hurt to others. I had always defined it as the need to be polite and courteous to others, even if I didn’t want to be when encountering people I was judging as annoying or downright mean. Then one day, it dawned on me that perhaps I needed to go deeper in what being considerate means. I realized that perhaps I was annoyed and even hurt by the actions of some people because I did not have the whole picture of what was going on in that person’s life.

Looking at consideration in this way, led me to have one of the most profound experiences of my life, which I would like to tell you. Unfortunately, my mother was very emotionally abusive toward me, as well as my brothers and stepfather. I must admit that I did not love her. Then one day, toward the end of her life, I had the idea of asking her what her childhood was like. I was horrified. I then asked her about her mother and what her life was like as a child and young adult. Again, I could not believe my ears. The light of truth came through the crack of our broken relationship. I found the truth as to why she was the way she was and I started showing up in the relationship with patience, love, and tolerance no matter how she treated me. Two months before she died she said these words to me, “Cass, you have been so nice to me, and I have been so mean to you your whole life. I am so sorry.” I gave her a hug and said that I forgave her. In that instant, I finally loved my mom. Two months later she died in my arms; something that definitely would not have happened if I had not considered the damage of her past, which she carried forward into her adult life.

In today’s world, we need to consider where people might be coming from before judging their behavior. There are too many times when we see an action, and because we are uncomfortable with that action, we then tell a story about why they are acting that way without really considering the truth as to what had made them act that way. Both George Floyd and Freddie Gray had criminal records, but when those records are examined, the light of truth comes through as it is apparent their crimes were as a result of addiction or other unfavorable conditions. In Freddie Gray’s situation, “he was born months prematurely, born underweight, born addicted to heroin, and was exposed to unsafe levels of lead as a child while living in public housing.” (Wes Moore, author of “Five Days”). Moore says the deaths of Freddie Gray and George Floyd highlight the injustices that go beyond police brutality and it’s time to deal with the underlying conditions that many are forced to endure.

In thinking back to my mother, my grandmother, and my great grandmother, I can’t help but think how different they would have been if they had received help in fixing the underlying conditions of their mental illnesses. Unfortunately, there was quite a stigma back then in getting that type of help. I am so grateful I have had the privilege of receiving help so that the light of truth could shine on my underlying conditions making it possible for me not to pass on to my children the negative legacy left to me.

Prayer: God, we thank you for shining the light of truth on our brokenness. Please guide us in taking the proper actions in dealing with harmful underlying conditions which no human being should have to endure. Amen.

With peace and love,

Cass Rulon-Miller

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